Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Friday, 23 May 2014 |
Question:
I realize that watching erotic Internet sites leads nowhere and makes me feel spiritually and morally corrupt, but I can’t stop. I have tried everything in order to give up the addiction – mikvahs, cold showers, jogging, learning more Torah, making vows that I would stop, trying the 12 Torah Steps, confessing my problem to a rabbi, but after a few days of going clean, I’m back at the keyboard with a frenzy. I even installed a reliable filter, but I keep punching in the by-pass code. What more can a guy do?
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Written by Michael |
Sunday, 17 November 2013 |
Question:
I am not suggesting that your Torah sources are in error, but it seems to me that you have exaggerated with all of your fire and brimstone warnings. I can see a movie, or see sexy pics on the Intrnet, go to a crowded beach, or spend a day with a pretty woman and never experience a wet dream or the desire to masturbate. I am sure this is true for most men, not only me.
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Last Updated ( Sunday, 17 November 2013 ) |
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Chofetz Chaim on Tikun HaBrit |
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Written by Chofetz Chaim |
Sunday, 17 November 2013 |
Question:
You seem to emphasize a Kabbalistic approach to “Tikun HaBrit.” What’s a more mainstream approach to the issue?
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In answer to your question, we will quote from the writings of the Chofetz Chaim who compiled the halachic compendium, the “Mishna Berurah.” He indicates that the principle rectification for Tikun HaBrit is through the study of Torah: |
Last Updated ( Sunday, 17 November 2013 ) |
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How Important is the Wife's Pleasure |
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Sunday, 17 November 2013 |
Question:
I have heard that a husband should try to give his wife pleasure. Does that mean to make her have an orgasm orto just be sensitive to her needs without necessarily bringing her to orgasm? Withus, it can take ages before my wife feels relaxed enough to enjoy things. Canthe husband massage her organ with his fingers in order to give her pleasure?Also, sometimes I notice a that a drop of clear fluid comes out of my membereven before relations begin, as if it is some kind of natural lubricant. Isthis considered like the spilling of semen in vain?
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Sunday, 17 November 2013 |
Question:
I have been struggling with masturbation for some time. 3 months ago I did heartfelt Tshuva and did not sin since. However, slowly over the past 3 months I would occasionally gaze at improper websites (again), but still stayed in “check”...Unfortunately, last night I sinned... |
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Tuesday, 05 November 2013 |
Question:
My work entails many searches through Google pictures. Photos of immodest women invariably pop up, and I find it impossible to avoid gazing at these. Any advice?
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Last Updated ( Tuesday, 05 November 2013 ) |
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They Scoffed at Noach Too! |
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Saturday, 05 October 2013 |
Question: Don’t you think that over-emphasizing sex is making a mountain out of a mole hill?
Answer: They scoffed at Noach too! They ridiculed him. They laughed. No one paid any attention to his warnings. For 120 years, he worked on building the ark, so that people would pass by and ask what he was doing, giving them a chance to repent.
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Last Updated ( Saturday, 05 October 2013 ) |
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Tuesday, 11 June 2013 |
I’m Going Whacky!
QUESTION:
I am married and have children and consider myself very religious. I learn every day, daven every day, teach Torah classes, and lead a pretty frum life. However I can't stop thinking about sex.
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Written by Michael |
Friday, 26 April 2013 |
Question:
I am 22-year-old baal t'shuva (returnee to religious lifestyle). I was not raised very religious, and early on I was exposed to pornography and sexually impure images. Over time I became obsessed with pornography, and later, during my teens, when the internet started to become popular, I quickly became addicted to internet porn.
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What's Wrong With A Little Pornography? |
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Written by Michael |
Tuesday, 22 January 2013 |
Question:
I fail to understand the great sin in looking at sexy pictures on the Internet. It doesn't make me do anything evil. I don't masturbate when I watch. I just enjoy seeing pictures of beautiful women.
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Sunday, 23 December 2012 |
QUESTION:
I am married but I also have some homosexual desires. I know someone who does too. Are we allowed to be unclothed before each other and hug and feel as long as we don’t spill any semen in vain (motzie zera)?
Also, my wife and I like to do different positions – standing, sitting, doggy style etc. Is that forbidden? Can my wife and I watch porn to enhance our sexual pleasure? Can a man watch porn alone if he will have relations later on that night? Thank you.
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Written by Michael |
Sunday, 23 December 2012 |
Question:
Hard to concentrate, huh?
I am a 30-year-old baal teshuva [returnee to ritual observance], religious now for about three years, living in Jerusalem. I have been dating a lot, but have not yet found the one. I lived in California for most of my life, and mostly all I saw were women wearing not very much clothing. For the last 6 months, the only thing that has been on my mind is women and sex. My learning has tanked heavily - I can barely sit still. I work 10-12 hours a day and try to learn for at least 4. What is the best way for me to get my mind out of this sexual frenzy going on in my head?
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Last Updated ( Sunday, 23 December 2012 ) |
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Written by Michael |
Sunday, 23 December 2012 |
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Just this one last time...
Can you explain the commandment not to stray after your hearts and after your eyes? What kind of things are forbidden?
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Written by Michael |
Thursday, 08 November 2012 |
Question:
As a woman living in a modern Orthodox community, I have a question. If immodesty and suggestive clothing is such a terrible thing, why don't we hear rabbis constantly warning about its dangers? I have never heard the rabbi at our shul address the issue at all.
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Last Updated ( Thursday, 08 November 2012 ) |
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It Was an Itsy Bitsy, Teeny Weeny, Yellow Polka Dot Bikini |
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Friday, 19 October 2012 |
Question:
It happened again! For the last four months I’ve been clean – no porn on the Internet, no , studying Torah as much as I can, exercise, going out with friends, anything to prevent me from being alone with the computer. Then I lost everything.
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Last Updated ( Friday, 19 October 2012 ) |
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Written by Tzvi Fishman |
Wednesday, 10 October 2012 |
Question:
I have a big problem. At the moment I am looking to date. One girl was suggested and I looked her up on Facebook to see her profile and her pictures. The more I looked the more I began to see her in a much more sexual way. I gazed and gazed and then when I went to the bathroom, my underwear had semen in it. How do I do proper Teshuva? I have stopped porn and masturbating but this is still a big problem. Is this considered spilling seed like masturbating? If so, what do I do to rectify this and truly do shidduchim the proper way?
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Written by Michael |
Wednesday, 10 October 2012 |
Question:
Gymnastics in intimacy turns worlds upside down
If a man can control himself and not "spill seed" when engaging in different positions or when engaging in oral sex, why are they forbidden?
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Last Updated ( Wednesday, 10 October 2012 ) |
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Keys to Joyful Lovemaking |
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Written by Michael |
Wednesday, 10 October 2012 |
Question:
In other words: the birds and the bees, if you please
This website highlights the religious obligation of a man to please his wife and make sure she is sexually satisfied. On the other hand, you add so many restrictions (no oral sex, woman on bottom) that it doesn't seem likely for the woman to reach orgasm. Please explain.
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Last Updated ( Wednesday, 10 October 2012 ) |
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