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|Google Girl Gazing|
|Written by Tzvi Fishman|
|Tuesday, 05 November 2013|
My work entails many searches through Google pictures. Photos of immodest women invariably pop up, and I find it impossible to avoid gazing at these. Any advice?
The truth is that dealing with this temptation is not an easy matter. No one is immune from the yetzer hara (the sexual drive). Our Sages tell us that a Jew should not say “I don’t eat pork because I don’t like the taste.” Rather he should say, “Though pork is tasty, I don’t eat it because of the command of my Creator.”
First of all, for safety sake, it is a good idea to have a reliable anti-porn filter , to entrust the code to one’s wife (you yourself shouldn’t know the code), and to keep the computer in a central place in the living room so everyone can see what’s on the screen.
The Torah portion of “Ke-Teze” states:
This warning does not only apply to the Jewish army, but also to any Jewish encampment, dormitory, office, or home. As our Sages have told us, nothing drives the Divine Presence away from the Jewish People as much as immodesty and sexual transgression.
Referring to the warning in the verse we have quoted above, “Thou shall keep away from every evil thing,” the Talmud teaches:
This injunction applies to looking at photos of women on the internet as well. This type of sordid behavior pollutes one’s soul and one’s house with a terrible pollution that drives Divine blessing away.
For those who maintain, “I can look at girlie pictures and nothing results from it,” this is not true. Firstly, it clearly violates the Torah commandment, “You shall not stray after hearts and after your eyes which lead you astray.”
Secondly, gazing at immodest images triggers an automatic, even if unconscious, sexual thought which pollutes the brain, the heart, and the soul.
Because of this automatic response, the spiritual component of the seminal seed is automatically released from the brain and travels along the spinal cord to the lower glands where it will be jettisoned in one way or another, whether through a spilling of semen, a “wet dream,” or when a person urinates. As our Sages have taught: “Whoever gazes at women will eventually come to transgression” (Nedarim20A). They also have warned: “The eye sees, the heart desires, and the body finishes the sin.”
If a husband has relations with his wife after having looked at pictures of women on the internet, G-d forbid, this is clearly forbidden, and any child resulting from such a union will be spiritually, and possibly physically blemished, as well.
Furthermore, since a man’s brain and thought process is connected to the highest spiritual worlds, googling at Google ladies pollutes the Holy of Holies in the uppermost world, just like setting up an idol in the Holy Temple.
Each immodest image a person looks at causes him to violate, “You shall keep away from everything evil,” so that at one internet sitting a person can transgress hundreds of Torah prohibitions.
The evil results of looking at pictures of women on the internet are too numerous to list here. Many other articles on this site deal with this issue. In summary, our Sages have said that gazing lustfully at women is worse than the forbidden act itself, since when a man commits a sexual transgression with another person, if his soul is not totally darkened within him, he afterwards suffers a feeling of revulsion and remorse which leads him to thoughts of repentance. However, the person who obsessively gazes at women convinces himself that he is engaged in permissible behavior, and because his heart isn’t saddened over this, he doesn’t think to repent, and continues to commit hundreds of transgressions each day (See “Taharat HaKodesh,” 3:3).
As King Shlomo taught: “There is a generation that is pure in their own eyes, and is not washed from their filth” (Mishle, 30:13). Because they fancy themselves pure, and don’t understand how their eyes drag them into a terrible pollution and cut them off from everything holy, they don’t think to cleanse themselves from their filth. Thus, King Shlomo writes after this: “There is a generation, O how lofty are their eyes and how their eyelids are raised,” to go about in arrogance and contempt for the Torah, to allow their eyes to gaze upon whatever their hearts desire.
Studies suggest that up to seven out of ten internet viewers spend a portion of each viewing session watching some porn. So for the health of your souls, and for the spiritual, moral, and physical health of your family, if you don’t yet have a trustworthy filter, download one now, let your wife be the only one who knows the code, and keep the monster in a central place in the house.
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